Coping with the sense of loss, lost connection, and the missing presence of someone we love deeply is a rugged, emotional terrain fraught with decisions that can feel overwhelming while dealing with difficult decisions regarding your deceased loved one’s arrangements. One of the more notable aspects of this grieving journey, if your loved one chooses cremation, is the selection of a funeral urn to memorialize the deceased.
Throughout this process, we often grapple with intense waves of emotion, such as sadness, loss, healing, and even love. Acknowledging and understanding these emotions is one of the first crucial steps in selecting an urn that conveys personal meaning and commemorates the memory of your loved one.
Today, we wish to explore the more emotional aspects and significance of choosing an urn and delve into the different states you may experience as you navigate this profoundly personal journey.
Coping with Loss
When a death has taken place, the first experiences are often a wide range of emotions that rise and fade like a stormy ocean, even should that death be expected. Many people have shared the feeling of an initial numbness after first learning of a death, but the following emotions often hold no real meaning during the grieving process. You may feel one or all of the next:
- Denial
- Disbelief
- Confusion
- Shock
- Sadness
- Yearning
- Anger
- Humiliation
- Despair
- Guilt
These feelings and more are perfectly normal and widespread reactions to loss. Many of us are unprepared for the intensity or duration of emotions and how swiftly they change. You may even begin doubting your mental health—but we’re here to assure you that these feelings are healthy and appropriate for the grieving you are experiencing, and, as hard as it is in this moment to feel them, they will help you come to terms with the loss in your life.
Remember: there is no time-line to grief. There is no set moment when you should be ‘healed.’ It takes time, as much time as you need, and you will always miss and love your departed one, but the pain does ease over time, allowing you to focus on happier, bittersweet, joyful memories.
One of the first steps you may find yourself in initially during mourning is acceptance. It is, perhaps, one of the most complicated steps to accept the overwhelming and painful reality of accepting the loss, and it is often during this time you may be asked or may be starting to think about choosing an urn as a tribute for your departed loved one. Recognizing, acknowledging, and understanding these complex emotions experienced during this stage can help provide you with the tools and strength to select a final resting place urn.
As you begin this journey, do not hesitate to seek support from friends, family, grief counseling, or grief support groups. They can provide you with many tools for comfort, understanding, and a shared connection during a process many feel is unmanageable.
Honoring Your Loved One’s Life and Personal Connections
When you finally make the first step toward progress into the emotional journey of grief and choosing a funeral urn, you will find yourself reflecting on the personal connections and memories shared with your loved one. This process can help you create a vivid and unique picture of their extraordinary life, personality, and passions.
Incorporating these pieces and attributes during your decision can help you select a funeral urn that reflects your loved one’s essence and the treasured experiences you shared. This personal connection can bring comfort and provide solace in knowing your choice truly reflects your loved one’s life.
The Path to Healing
The emotional journal of selecting a burial urn is profoundly personal and often transformative for those in mourning. From acceptance, exploring connections, and more to the ongoing healing process, understanding your emotions behind each stage will enable you to make a heartfelt choice and begin the long journey toward healing.
Should you seek the ideal urn for your loved one during this heartbreaking time, please know that Legacy Urns gives you our deepest condolences as we understand the importance of this journey and are dedicated to providing guidance, support, and options for you when you need it.
We thank you for visiting us today and hope that as you browse our website, you will find the comfort and support you need to find the perfect urn for your dearly loved one.